Victor holds an MA in Organizational Leadership from Gonzaga University with a minor in Servant Leader, He also has a BA in Human Services, AAS in Substance Abuse and Addiction, and a Counseling Certification. Among his greatest accomplishments is that he achieved victory over his drug addiction for more than 35 years, to which he credits the loving support of thousands of people who helped a at a time when he had given up.
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Victor Lee having been sober for more than 35 years and understands the constraints of not only getting sober, but maintaining it. His experiences both in active addiction and on the journey to recovery are nothing short of a miracle. Amazingly to know him and hear his story, most cannot believe all they hear. The passion with which he assists others in creating a future that they too can love and enjoy as he now lives is contagious. Addiction is a family disease and he is committed to educating families of loved ones who have found themselves wrestling with the lie "Once an addict always an addict." He masterfully shapes what was his guilt and shame into powerful teachings which illuminate the power we hold to change, and when necessary, change again. He is proof that not only is recovery possible but the promise of a new and empowering life in which millions of clean addicts and alcoholics now thrive. That reality is available to you and your loved ones. While now educated in the field of addiction this is not a book report and he delvers this message profoundly in living color.
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STUDENTS OF SUBSTANCE ABUSE/ADDICTION
If having everything given to us on a silver platter was the answer we would all simply purchase the platter. The truth is when we are at our lowest not much value can be found is anything except the thing which we need to let go. Being enabled by a family member while addicted can last until either the enabled or the relationship is destroyed, Most of use have or had sadly gotten to the point where we placed the use of drugs and alcohol ahead of everything and that includes you. Intentional or not that is only part of the problem. If your loved one needed heart surgery would you strap them to a bed and perform the procedure? Of course you wouldn't, and yet with limited knowledge and understanding you have convinced yourself that you can fix them. Unfortunately you cannot. You can however learn how to more effectively support them with hurting yourself or them and putting them at further risk. In order to do so you must be willing to let go of what is not working and allow yourself to be changed which is the very thing you want for your loved one. If nothing changes no one does.
Why won't they change is a loaded question which is only supported by your view of what is and is not changing. Every addict has some things in common but their experience and matriculation will always be uniquely their own. The shift you are waiting for will only happen when it does and until then it will not. A better question is what blocks change? In part "obstacle illusion's." These are ideas, thoughts, fears, past failures and lack of trust just to name a few, which seem to the individual insurmountable. Your saying why don't you just stop drinking is common and yet a statement of lack of knowledge, and o course a sincere desire to have them not continue to suffer.
According to Dr. Nora Volkow November 2020, Although deaths from opioids continue to command the public’s attention, an alarming increase in deaths involving the stimulant drugs methamphetamine and cocaine are a stark illustration that we no longer face just an opioid crisis. We face a complex and ever-evolving addiction and overdose crisis characterized by shifting use and availability of different substances and use of multiple drugs (and drug classes) together.
We all have felt a time or two a sense of a loss of hope. It is in that level of despair that often nothing moves. Resignation and cynicism then become a team with designs on taking you out. Not to kill you but leave you in a space where you embrace the worst thing every. Some have stated in these times "This is the way I am and nothing is going to change." This level of loss of any chance of redemption is the worst place any can find themselves. In a sentence it gives the robber of our preferred future a key to now take whatever is left. Once this happens the one who is suffering accepts the suffering as their just do. Nothing is more pervasive than when one finds them self no longer willing to help him or herself.
I have and millions have type 2 diabetes, No one has ever asked will I ever be normal, nor do the criticize my affliction. Yet, some judge me for having and addiction. I did not ask for diabetes or addiction and neither did your loved one. For the record I am normal and so are you with all of our faults, afflictions, mistakes shortcomings, and whatever medical or mental struggle. The only way to begin looking at people as human is to first look yourself. People have come to these sessions simply to learn how fix their addicted loved one. They come with a sense of purity and wholeness that does not permit them to even be honest with themselves. As a helper I have to be tolerate of those I am helping. My sense of being faultless and pure is likely part of the problem. If I continue to believe myself to be perfect that will forever be my dilemma and their peril. In other words, no matter what they do to change, it will never match my expectations.
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Inspiring New and Empowering Possibilities
The goal of any good help is for us to learn how to help others without enabling continued behavior while not hurting ourselves. As addicts until we begin to embrace doing for ourselves what only we can do we, we won't change. When you cannot stop doing it for us, we both become helpless.
Addiction is a family disease and effects all communities. What that means is just as the addicts addiction has an impact on the family, so too does the family response impact one's recovery. Victor Lee recognized that just saying it is a family disease is not enough. We have found that to be ineffective. Without giving you more information along with some new tools for helping you will continue to be in the dark. The addiction will not ever go away however, it can be arrested which allows them to recover. By assisting in helping those you love it begins to over time rebuild trust in fractured relationships. If you are wiling to learn what you don't know, that you don't know, it will broaden your view which will allow shifts in your expectations giving them time to grow at their own pace.
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