FAMILY EDUCATION PROGRAM


WHAT YOU DON'T KNOW ABOUT ADDICTION

The Anonymous People video trailer exposes the lie. It is proof that our loved ones can recover from the disease of addiction, just as I have for now 38 years.

Victor holds an MA in Organizational Leadership from Gonzaga University with a minor in Servant Leader, a BHS in Human Services, AAS in Substance Abuse and Addiction, and a licensed addiction professional in Arizona. Among his greatest accomplishments is his victory over substance abuse. He credits the loving support of thousands of people in recovery who supported him when he thought recovery impossible.

Meet Victor Lee

One of his favorite quotes is "Love me when I don't deserve it, because that is when I need it the most." He also believes that while being loved is important, we must learn to love ourselves more fully and that healing is the only route to getting there.

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Why do extra work when you could be growing your business? Through our tested process, we’ll help you find clarity in what you need and maximize your efforts from beginning to end.

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Explore

This is not a templated approach. We know every single buisness and client is unique. We’ll work with you to explore, research and understand your business.

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Opportunity & Research

Your competitors may be doing the same thing, but we’ll help you navigate the world of opportunity. There’s always room to improve and innovate.

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Plan, Create, & Execute

Through an agile approach, we’ll create a roadmap to completion, create and execute. This is where your product will really come to life.

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Optimization

Learnings, usage and analytics will tell us how to best optimize to continuously reach your customers and maximize your growth potential. 

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Tracking, Reporting, & Growing

Your business is an ever-evolving thing. Through tracking and reporting, we’ll continuously be your partner to make sure you continue to grow.

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WHAT YOU DON'T KNOW ABOUT ADDICTION

Family Workshop

Replicate results. Not work.

Why do extra work when you could be growing your relationship with your loved one and yourself? Through our tested process, we’ll help you find clarity in what you need and maximize your efforts from beginning to end. This opportunity is for anyone who is

This is a 6-week program that meets for 3 hours on consecutive Saturdays. You will receive a certificate upon completion.

YOU WILL LEARN THE FOLLOWING:

Module I

What you don’t know about addiction

Module II

Unhealthy Thinking and Defense Mechanisms

Module III

Co-dependency and Enabling Patterns

Module IV

Setting and Maintaining Healthy Boundaries

Module V

Communication: The Problem to the Answer

Module VI

Aftercare: Rediscovering Life Sober


WHO WOULD BENEFIT FROM THIS TRAINING

FAMILIES OF ADDICTED LOVED ONES

PROFESSIONAL CONTINUING EDUCATION

HUMAN RESORUCE PROFESSIONALS

PROBATION/PAROLE

PEACE OFFICERS

STUDENTS OF SUBSTANCE ABUSE/ADDICTION

EDUCATORS/TEACHERS

CASE WORKERS

EAP PROFESSIONALS


WHEN HELP SOMETIMES HURTS

If having everything given to us on a silver platter was the answer we would all simply purchase the platter. The truth is when we are at our lowest not much value can be found is anything except the thing which we need to let go. Being enabled by a family member while addicted can last until either the enabled or the relationship is destroyed, Most of use have or had sadly gotten to the point where we placed the use of drugs and alcohol ahead of everything and that includes you. Intentional or not that is only part of the problem. If your loved one needed heart surgery would you strap them to a bed and perform the procedure? Of course you wouldn't, and yet with limited knowledge and understanding you have convinced yourself that you can fix them. Unfortunately you cannot. You can however learn how to more effectively support them with hurting yourself or them and putting them at further risk. In order to do so you must be willing to let go of what is not working and allow yourself to be changed which is the very thing you want for your loved one. If nothing changes no one does.


WHY WON'T THEY CHANGE?

Why won't they change is a loaded question which is only supported by one's view of what is and is not changing. Every addict has some things in common, however, their experience of themselves and how they process their past will always be uniquely their own. Further, only they know what has happened to them in their lives and they may not yet be ready to share. A better question would be, what blocks change? besides, drugs and alcohol are really not the problem. The problem is something which they are trying to solve through the use of substances. Treatment and therapy can assist in breaking the bonds of destructive ways of dealing with trauma, mental health issues, and even emotional pain which are all to familiar in addiction.

The goal of any help that hopes to make a profound difference is for the helper to learn how to support without enabling continued behavior. An active addict cannot resist a handout. As family and friends, we are often more a part of the problem than we realize. Dr. Clifford Ashe III states, "Until the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of change, we won't. Sadly, when you do for me that which I must learn to do for myself, I have no reason to change.


LOSING HOPE

We all have felt a time or two, some sense of loss of hope. It is in that level of despair that often nothing moves. Resignation and cynicism then become a team with designs on taking you out. Not to kill you but leave you in a space where you embrace the worst thing every. Some have stated in these times "This is the way I am and nothing is going to change." This level of loss of any chance of redemption is the worst place any can find themselves. In a sentence it gives the robber of our preferred future a key to now take whatever is left. Once this happens the one who is suffering accepts the suffering as their just do. Nothing is more pervasive than when one finds them self no longer willing to help him or herself.


WILL THEY EVER BE NORMAL?

I as many millions have diabetes, No one has ever criticized my affliction. Yet, there are those who judge me for having the disease of addiction. I did not ask for diabetes or addiction and neither did your loved one. For the record, I am normal and so are you with all of our faults, afflictions, mistakes shortcomings, and whatever your medical or mental struggle. The only way to begin looking at people as human is to first look yourself. People have come to these sessions simply to learn how fix their addicted loved one. They come with a sense of purity and wholeness that for some, does not permit them to even be honest with themselves. As a helper I have to be tolerant of those I am helping. Having a sense of being faultless and pure is a huge part of the helpers curse. Unfortunately, no matter what your loved one's do to change, it will never match your expectations.


Please get in touch with us. We want to work with you and your organization in making a difference in the lives of the many individuals and families who are still suffering. Each of us needs all of us, and all of us needs each of us.

(888) 280-0581

victor@gettingbeyondbarriers.org

WHAT CAN YOU AND I DO?

Addiction is a family disease and affects all communities. What that means is just as the addicts addiction has an impact on the family, so too does the family response impact one's recovery. Victor Lee recognized that just saying it is a family disease is not enough. We have found that to be ineffective. Without giving you more information along with some new tools for helping you will continue to be in the dark. The addiction will not ever go away however, it can be arrested which allows them to recover. By assisting in helping those you love it begins to over time rebuild trust in fractured relationships. If you are wiling to learn what you don't know, that you don't know, it will broaden your view which will allow shifts in your expectations giving them time to grow at their own pace.

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Each of us together can do what none of us can do alone.

Contact: Victor Lee

(888) 280-0581

victor@gettingbeyondbarriers.org