THE VIDEO TRAILER BELOW "THE ANONYMOUS PEOPLE" IS PROOF YOUR LOVED ONE'S CAN AND DO RECOVER.
Victor Lee having been sober for more than 36 years and understands the constraints of not only getting sober, but in maintaining sobriety. His experiences both in active addiction and his journey to recovery are nothing short of a miracle. Amazingly to meet him most cannot imagine or believe that who he is today began with an addiction to drugs, homelessness, despair and a lot of pain. The passion with which he assists others is contagious. Addiction is a family disease and he has committed to educating families of loved ones who have found themselves some in a hopeless state just as he and millions all over the world. He masterfully shapes what was his guilt, fear and shame into powerful teachings which illuminate the power we hold to change, and when necessary, change again, and again. His family program "What You Don't Know About Addiction" is a conduit for helping to bridge the gap between what we think we know and what we don't know that we don,t know, and we don't know it. He is proof that not only is recovery possible but it can be seen empowering millions of clean addicts and alcoholics now thriving and make a difference everywhere. This training will leave you touched, moved and inspired in ways you cannot even imagine.
FAMILIES OF ADDICTED LOVED ONES
PROFESSIONAL CONTINUING EDUCATION
HUMAN RESORUCE PROFESSIONALS
PROBATION/PAROLE
PEACE OFFICERS
STUDENTS OF SUBSTANCE ABUSE/ADDICTION
EDUCATORS/TEACHERS
CASE WORKERS
EAP PROFESSIONALS
If having everything given to us on a silver platter was the answer we would all simply purchase the platter. The truth is when we are at our lowest not much value can be found is anything except the thing which we need to let go. Being enabled by a family member while addicted can last until either the enabled or the relationship is destroyed, Most of use have or had sadly gotten to the point where we placed the use of drugs and alcohol ahead of everything and that includes you. Intentional or not that is only part of the problem. If your loved one needed heart surgery would you strap them to a bed and perform the procedure? Of course you wouldn't, and yet with limited knowledge and understanding you have convinced yourself that you can fix them. Unfortunately you cannot. You can however learn how to more effectively support them with hurting yourself or them and putting them at further risk. In order to do so you must be willing to let go of what is not working and allow yourself to be changed which is the very thing you want for your loved one. If nothing changes no one does.
Why won't they change is a loaded question which is only supported by one's view of what is and is not changing. Every addict has some things in common, however, their experience of themselves and how they process their past will always be uniquely their own. Further, only they know what has happened to them in their lives and they may not yet be ready to share. A better question would be, what blocks change? besides, drugs and alcohol are really not the problem. The problem is something which they are trying to solve through the use of substances. Treatment and therapy can assist in breaking the bonds of destructive ways of dealing with trauma, mental health issues, and even emotional pain which are all to familiar in addiction.
Addiction is a family disease and affects all communities. What that means is just as the addicts addiction has an impact on the family, so too does the family response impact one's recovery. Victor Lee recognized that just saying it is a family disease is not enough. We have found that to be ineffective. Without giving you more information along with some new tools for helping you will continue to be in the dark. The addiction will not ever go away however, it can be arrested which allows them to recover. By assisting in helping those you love it begins to over time rebuild trust in fractured relationships. If you are wiling to learn what you don't know, that you don't know, it will broaden your view which will allow shifts in your expectations giving them time to grow at their own pace.
According to Dr. Nora Volkow November 2020, Although deaths from opioids continue to command the public’s attention, an alarming increase in deaths involving the stimulant drugs methamphetamine and cocaine are a stark illustration that we no longer face just an opioid crisis. We face a complex and ever-evolving addiction and overdose crisis characterized by shifting use and availability of different substances and use of multiple drugs (and drug classes) together.
We all have felt a time or two, some sense of loss of hope. It is in that level of despair that often nothing moves. Resignation and cynicism then become a team with designs on taking you out. Not to kill you but leave you in a space where you embrace the worst thing every. Some have stated in these times "This is the way I am and nothing is going to change." This level of loss of any chance of redemption is the worst place any can find themselves. In a sentence it gives the robber of our preferred future a key to now take whatever is left. Once this happens the one who is suffering accepts the suffering as their just do. Nothing is more pervasive than when one finds them self no longer willing to help him or herself.
I as many millions have diabetes, No one has ever criticized my affliction. Yet, there are those who judge me for having the disease of addiction. I did not ask for diabetes or addiction and neither did your loved one. For the record, I am normal and so are you with all of our faults, afflictions, mistakes shortcomings, and whatever your medical or mental struggle. The only way to begin looking at people as human is to first look yourself. People have come to these sessions simply to learn how fix their addicted loved one. They come with a sense of purity and wholeness that for some, does not permit them to even be honest with themselves. As a helper I have to be tolerant of those I am helping. Having a sense of being faultless and pure is a huge part of the helpers curse. Unfortunately, no matter what your loved one's do to change, it will never match your expectations.
Please contact us. We want to work with you and your organization in making a difference in the lives of the many individuals and families who are still suffering. Each of us needs all of us, and all of us needs each of us.
(888) 280-0581
victor@gettingbeyondbarriers.org
The goal of any good help when it comes to substance abuse is for the helper to learn how to help without enabling continued behavior, and continuing to hurt ourselves. As addicts until we begin to embrace doing for ourselves what only we can, we won't change. When you cannot stop doing it for us, we both become helpless.
Victor Lee Founder
Contact: Victor Lee
(888) 280-0581
victor@gettingbeyondbarriers.org
Bring him in to speak with your group. He is funny, witty, inspired, knowlegeable,
educated, down to earth, and excited about what recovery makes available.
"No one else is coming and if things are going to change it is up to us!"
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